Healthy Anger: How to Help Children and Teens Manage Their AngerOxford University Press, 2003 M01 9 - 336 pages How should we respond to a child's temper tantrum? To a teenager's sullen resentment? How can we help children and teens experience their anger without being overwhelmed by it? How can we deal with their anger before it leads to depression, isolation, or even violence? In Healthy Anger, Bernard Golden draws upon more than twenty years of experience as a psychologist and teacher to offer specific, practical strategies for helping children and teens manage their anger constructively. Golden has developed a set of skills that parents, teachers, and counselors can use to show children how to identify the causes of anger; how to respond to it in ways that lead to an internal sense of competence and self-control; how to use anger to understand their own emotional situation; and how to develop a greater capacity for empathy towards themselves and others. And he shows parents how to cope with outbursts--including clear, step-by-step instructions and problem-solving skills--how to derail escalating anger, reward good behaviors, and recognize when professional help is needed. For anyone who has ever helplessly confronted a child's rage or a teenager's defiant fury, Healthy Anger offers a wealth of wise insight, clear advice, and eminently practical strategies for turning anger into understanding. |
Contents
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How Children and Teens Express Anger | 65 |
How to Apply the Model of Anger with Your Child or Teen | 95 |
General Guidelines for Using the Model of Anger | 97 |
Identifying Emotions Associated with Anger | 102 |
Acceptance and Forgiveness | 227 |
Special Considerations | 253 |
Rewarding Behaviors | 255 |
Responding to Escalating Anger | 270 |
Anger Hostility and Aggression The Need for Special Support | 280 |
Conclusion | 302 |
Notes | 305 |
Resources | 308 |
Identifying and Confronting Selftalk Based on Child Logic | 131 |
What Does Your Child Reallr Want or Need? | 144 |
Making Sense of Anger in the World Around Us | 161 |
Relaxation A Primary Task in Managing Anger | 180 |
I Need to Think About It | 193 |
Okay Im Ready to Talk About It | 205 |
Movies | 309 |
Publications | 310 |
Bibliography | 311 |
Index | 313 |
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